OSU! Yep! Only real pain was in that herniated disc in my upper back when she grabbed me by my dogi and tried to throw me out of the ring. Haha, didn't work! But a good try. Also not legal buuuuuuut she was trying. Had no formal training, just was in a bunch of bar brawls and stuff when she was younger, and was asked to fight two weeks ago! I actually liked her a lot and want to adopt her. Wasn't even mad the three times she punched me in the throat, as it was an accident, haha. It was weird having to tell her "please don't punch my throat," nice and calm whilst fighting, and "three seconds only for grabs," but the ref was, I dunno, lost somewhere? Haha. She didn't take offense. I stopped and apologized when I accidentally punched her in the jaw- she's as chesty as me, and well, fists can slide. Funny thing is, neither of us felt any pain or discomfort from any of the blows we threw! We had to wear shinguards and gloves and are both uh, well-padded, I'll say, and were both trying to run each other out of the ring, both trying to infight... and we agreed that it felt like a pillowfight. I felt declawed. But it was fun! In an exhausting, miserable kind of way. Weird thing is, my blood never got up. I never got that, you know, that BEAST rising up in me feeling. We went after each other, but the whole day I was just so calm. Too calm. Not at all what I expected. Did three iterations of Sanchin in the morning, meditated a bit whilst waiting for the tournament to start, but I thought I'd get all fierce. Still had fun, and we are both uninjured! OSU!
Weird thing is, my blood never got up. I never got that, you know, that BEAST rising up in me feeling. We went after each other, but the whole day I was just so calm. Too calm. Not at all what I expected.
Well done Ev.
Everyone reacts in different ways. Some need waking up before they step on to the mat, some need calming down. It's a hard thing to judge on your first attempt but at your de-brief with your instructor you'll know what mental state you need to find in the future.
I figured it out, she was scared, and she looked to me for reassurance and guidance. I could see it in her eyes, I could sense it, and it made me feel protective. We still fought hard, but... maybe it would have been different if I had felt pain?
Here's the fight, feel free to judge for yourselves. Showed it to my Shihan, he raked me over the coals, haha, but that's his job. He also told me I got in some good knees, but that I only had any air or stamina for the first 30 seconds.
Some interesting stuff going on that others pointed out to me, like the other coach talking to two of the corner judges...
Well he sounds a bundle of fun. You got up there and had a go. That's a starting point. Call me old fashioned but I'd've thought a chat about what worked and what didn't might have helped more.
Hah, yes, we did have that chat, too. He went over parts of the video with me, told me what was good, what wasn't good, what needed work, what was terrible, what needed to be fixed. It was a very helpful talk, and ended with "we'll fix it all in class."
He told me that when I first started coming to class, he didn't think I had the determination to stick with it and walk the walk long term, but that determination has reared it's head.
He's not big on praise but when he feels it's due, he gives it. He said I had some really good knee strikes in there, and I was doing well in the beginning, before I gassed out. He liked the knockdowns I managed (one at least was a slip on her part, though) and pointed out a lot of things I did wrong, too.
Actually, he can be a lot of fun. He's often hilarious. We used to butt heads a lot but we get along well now. And when he was saying that, about how I fought, he was doing the arms and making this face... Heh! I was laughing. He was too.
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One of my pet hates is coaches that tell you what they DON'T want rather than what they DO want. Andrew (my middle son) used to have a football coach that would (for example) bellow "Andrew! You're out of position!" Which told him nothing except that he was unhappy. "Andrew! Move forwards" would've been far more helpful.
That's on a technical level though. On a mental level, feeling your coach is helping rather than criticising is worth diamonds. I've had both types and although critical coaches inspired me to prove them wrong, the ones that corrected and inspired were far more help.
Oh, he tries both tactics, for sure. Was training military and their families only, on bases, for 25 years so he gets that whole drill sergeant thing going on, but he's learning, with me. I am told that when he was young, it was much more of a hard line "that's terrible, figure it out" and "fix that" without explaining the whats and whys of it, but that is different now. Took a while for me to figure him out too, though, and not take the bellowing personally. He explains what he wants and why and how power is generated, tosses in some jokes for good measure, and even praises when he sees something he thinks of as particularly good. He's taught me a heck of a lot, and I've come to understand that he sees something in me that I can't even see in myself yet. He believes in me, and he spends a LOT of time and effort and energy on me, for which I'm grateful. He's become family, quirks and all. OSU!